Bumps in the road

Oh dear. It’s not easy, is it?

My girlfriend is beautiful, intelligent, exotic and sexy. She has a quirky sense of humour and is deeply, madly in love with me. But, she has a tendency towards pessimism. She is very intense and she suffers from mood swings that are often very hard for me to take. Sometimes she obsesses about the problems in our relationship, and she worries whether our relationship can possibly last. This causes a lot of tension. It’s something that is getting more frequent. Each time it’s worse.

Her biggest problem is that when she comes down to see me, I seem to spend a lot of time in the family home with my kids. As a result, I don’t have much time for her. Recently she accused me of looking at her as her “night woman”. She doesn’t seem to understand that I have so many commitments and that I need to maximise my time with them. They don’t see that much of me during the week, so I value my time with them at weekends.

I want to be with my girlfriend as much as possible, but it’s damn hard to please everyone. I’m beginning to feel that despite how she feels about me, and how I feel about her, that I’m not the right person for her. My situation only seems to cause her incredible grief and annoyance. She has never had kids, so she doesn’t really understand the sacrifices I need to make (most of them willing sacrifices) for my children.

~ by amaltheus on March 6, 2009.