Comments on: Making the move http://amaltheus.wordpress.com/2009/02/15/making-the-move/ Love, loss, life... Thu, 02 Apr 2009 16:36:49 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: tobeconfirmed http://amaltheus.wordpress.com/2009/02/15/making-the-move/#comment-884 tobeconfirmed Sun, 15 Feb 2009 20:59:38 +0000 http://amaltheus.wordpress.com/?p=145#comment-884 I have the same sentiments as sixdegrees. I feel for you - it must be very hard right now. I have the same sentiments as sixdegrees. I feel for you – it must be very hard right now.

]]> By: sixdegrees http://amaltheus.wordpress.com/2009/02/15/making-the-move/#comment-883 sixdegrees Sun, 15 Feb 2009 13:13:58 +0000 http://amaltheus.wordpress.com/?p=145#comment-883 This does sound like a very difficult time. It will be hard on your kids, despite the fact that you've moved out before. Even from just reading your blog, this sounds different - permanent. I'll bet that your kids sense that, and have fears about the future that get played out as anger towards you and towards the world in general. Don't change what you are doing - you are doing the right thing for yourself. But take extra time to interact with your kids without your wife around. And I think that your wife senses the permanence of this move. Don't fool yourself into thinking that you and your wife will remain friends. The best you can hope for is civil, and that will be in short supply. But stay the course. This does sound like a very difficult time. It will be hard on your kids, despite the fact that you’ve moved out before. Even from just reading your blog, this sounds different – permanent. I’ll bet that your kids sense that, and have fears about the future that get played out as anger towards you and towards the world in general.

Don’t change what you are doing – you are doing the right thing for yourself. But take extra time to interact with your kids without your wife around.

And I think that your wife senses the permanence of this move. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you and your wife will remain friends. The best you can hope for is civil, and that will be in short supply.

But stay the course.

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