Comments on: A critical juncture http://amaltheus.wordpress.com/2009/01/18/a-critical-juncture/ Love, loss, life... Thu, 02 Apr 2009 16:36:49 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: pastfirst http://amaltheus.wordpress.com/2009/01/18/a-critical-juncture/#comment-880 pastfirst Tue, 20 Jan 2009 11:49:01 +0000 http://amaltheus.wordpress.com/?p=139#comment-880 I've just read your whole blog and realised that I misunderstood the situation. I wish you all the best with your new love. As I wrote previously, life is short so don't screw up. I’ve just read your whole blog and realised that I misunderstood the situation.
I wish you all the best with your new love. As I wrote previously, life is short so don’t screw up.

]]> By: amaltheus http://amaltheus.wordpress.com/2009/01/18/a-critical-juncture/#comment-879 amaltheus Tue, 20 Jan 2009 00:59:42 +0000 http://amaltheus.wordpress.com/?p=139#comment-879 Many thanks to you both for your thoughtful comments. There is quite a bit of history if you check my blog. It's all there in gory detail, I'm afraid! My wife and I separated some years ago, but nevertheless I am back in the family home again after a number of setbacks and changes in my life that I could never have anticipated. My wife was aware that I had a relationship while I was separated too. So there's history there, as they say. It may not be as bad as I think, but we'll see. Many thanks to you both for your thoughtful comments.

There is quite a bit of history if you check my blog. It’s all there in gory detail, I’m afraid! My wife and I separated some years ago, but nevertheless I am back in the family home again after a number of setbacks and changes in my life that I could never have anticipated. My wife was aware that I had a relationship while I was separated too. So there’s history there, as they say. It may not be as bad as I think, but we’ll see.

]]> By: sixdegrees http://amaltheus.wordpress.com/2009/01/18/a-critical-juncture/#comment-878 sixdegrees Sun, 18 Jan 2009 12:39:23 +0000 http://amaltheus.wordpress.com/?p=139#comment-878 A very thoughtful and emotional post. My advice is that it is far better to reveal the truth yourself than to allow others to find that you have been deceptive. Even if there are mitigating circumstances. It will hurt your wife to hear that you have fallen in love with someone else, but it would hurt her even more to find out that you were living a double life. Yes, your kids will be affected. But kids know and respond to what their parents are feeling. As your children see their father being happy and interacting with them in a positive way, they will respond. I think the trauma will be short-lived and can be mitigated by remaining involved as a loving and caring parent. It is ok to be scared. But remember that you have inner strengths that will allow you to overcome your fears and open your heart to the future. Everybody deserves to be happy. Best wishes as you move forward. A very thoughtful and emotional post. My advice is that it is far better to reveal the truth yourself than to allow others to find that you have been deceptive. Even if there are mitigating circumstances. It will hurt your wife to hear that you have fallen in love with someone else, but it would hurt her even more to find out that you were living a double life.

Yes, your kids will be affected. But kids know and respond to what their parents are feeling. As your children see their father being happy and interacting with them in a positive way, they will respond. I think the trauma will be short-lived and can be mitigated by remaining involved as a loving and caring parent.

It is ok to be scared. But remember that you have inner strengths that will allow you to overcome your fears and open your heart to the future.

Everybody deserves to be happy. Best wishes as you move forward.

]]> By: pastfirst http://amaltheus.wordpress.com/2009/01/18/a-critical-juncture/#comment-877 pastfirst Sun, 18 Jan 2009 09:00:34 +0000 http://amaltheus.wordpress.com/?p=139#comment-877 It'll probably surprise you to know that I really enjoyed reading your post. It's deep and emotional. I can only say that these things happen. Life is too short to mess up. If you really love this other woman, make a decision. I think that the sooner you come clean, the better. Your wife and kids are going to be deeply hurt anyway, and it's doubtful whether your relationship with your wife can remain friendly under the circumstances. Unfortunately your kids are in the middle and theit lives will be traumatically effected. But you have to make a choice. It’ll probably surprise you to know that I really enjoyed reading your post. It’s deep and emotional.
I can only say that these things happen. Life is too short to mess up. If you really love this other woman, make a decision.
I think that the sooner you come clean, the better.
Your wife and kids are going to be deeply hurt anyway, and it’s doubtful whether your relationship with your wife can remain friendly under the circumstances.
Unfortunately your kids are in the middle and theit lives will be traumatically effected. But you have to make a choice.

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