New Roads

I have fallen in love. And it couldn’t have happened at a stranger time.

A beautiful woman has entered my life. She has swept me off my feet. She thinks the same way about me as I do about her.

We don’t live close to each other, so the last few weeks have seen a flurry of emails and texts, telling each other how much we love each other.

All this is in the context of me going away on a holiday with my wife and kids on one of the best vacations I have ever spent with my family. All this in a period of settling, where we are beginning to get asked over to friends, and to be thought of as a couple again. All this when our kids are simply thriving, with two doting parents looking over their shoulders.

I spoke about long term stuff on one occasion to my wife over the holidays, and I correctly assumed that her feelings for me had not changed that much and she had not put much thought into future plans. We both see ourselves as parents doing the best for our kids. In fact, we are more than just parents. We are good friends. The best of friends.

The touchy subject of our future together and me staying or moving came up. I admitted that I am not constructed to just sit back and admire menus for the rest of my life. “Well, you’d better move out then, hadn’t you?”, she said with a smile. 

She wants me to be upfront with her about future relationships, and to think about what the effect might be on the kids. (It turns out she heard from a third party that I was dating the last time before I had a chance to tell her myself, and was none too happy).

So, that’s the background. The next question is what to do next.

~ by amaltheus on November 7, 2008.