From hero to zero..
It’s been a few weeks since I posted. I am doing well. I’ve started my new job and so far so good. I love it. My boss is good, the people I work with are nice and the whole atmosphere in the company is friendly. It’s a world away from my previous situation. My home life has improved too. I’m a different person. I’m feeling good.
I wish I could keep on going about this, because so many of my posts have been negative in the past. However, something has come up that I want to blog about tonight. It’s weighing down on my mind.
A good friend of mine – the woman I shared a house with – is accusing me of having broken her trust. She is extremely angry with me.
We both got into a dispute with our landlord over deposit monies and the situation quickly slid into acrimony. Veiled legal threats were made and I was concerned that the situation, bad enough though it was, was getting rapidly worse. I decided to contact the landlord myself, over email, one-to-one, and I managed to get the landlord to pull back. I really thought I had done the right thing until I reported this back to my friend. When she heard we had had an offline email conversation she accused me of going behind her back. This despite the fact that we had agreed that I speak to him. I spent an hour on the phone explaining to her what I was trying to do. I tried to explain that I did it to avoid the situation getting out of hand, but she wasn’t having any of it. She asked me to send her the email thread, so I did (what options did I have?). Since then I have been stonewalled and just now I have received an email saying that she is deeply upset that I have broken her trust. Even though I didn’t write anything in the email that could be construed as stabbing her in the back, she is reading all sorts of things into my motives.
I don’t understand this volatility, this sense that everyone is out to get her, this belief that one must be fully in control of all events, this inability to take my side into account. She accused me of not doing enough, and then when I do something to ease the situation I’m roundly attacked, to the point that our friendship is on the line. I’m even questioning my motives now.
So did I do something wrong? What should I do to ease things? I’m really confused. I appear to have turned a friend into an enemy over a simple misunderstanding.
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